UNIT   16. HONESTY

Exercise 1. Learn the following words and expressions. Make up Preparation sentences of your own.

female    to be straight     to hedge around the subject obvious to drop hints     to nag     to sulk     issue     tough     to accuse

Exercise 2. A. The conversation you are going to hear is about Listening        the relationships between boys and girls. After you

listened to the conversation, choose the correct

answer:

1. Recent changes in behaviour have affected_

a. women only.

b. more women than men.

c. more men than women.

d. both men and women to the same degree.

2. Young men complain that their girlfriends_

a. have no time for them. c. never understand them.

b. never want to talk to them.   d. never tell them the truth.

3. 'To hedge around the subject' means_

a. to refuse to talk about certain problems.

b. to avoid talking about certain problems.

c. to keep talking about one problem for a long time.

d. to keep asking questions about one problem for a long time.

4. It's difficult for girls to talk about_

a. their feelings.

b. their problems.

c. their plans.

d. their ideas.

5. Girls would like their boyfriends_

a. to ask them what they want.

b. to find out what they want.

c. to guess what they want.

d. to know what they want.

6. a. Girls are very critical of their boyfriends.

b. Girls never criticize their boyfriends.

c. Girls love being criticized.

d. Girls hate being criticized.7. 'Why can't you buy some smart clothes?' can be considered_

a. a suggestion.

b. a request.

c. an order.

d. a question.

8. Girls tend to avoid being straight with their boyfriends because_

a. they know that boys don't like it.

b. they are afraid to do it.

c. they don't know how to do it.

d. they think it is not necessary.

9. A girl mustn't tell her boyfriend that_

a. he can't understand her.

b. he will never understand her.

c. he doesn't understand her.

d. he doesn't want to understand her.

10. Making boys feel jealous is_

a. exciting.

b. effective.

c. useless.

d. necessary.

11. It's irritating when people_

a. are frank.

b. say what's on their minds.

c. think you can guess what's on their minds.

d. want you to guess what's on their minds.

12. Do you think that the girls took the journalist's advice_

a. seriously?

b. with skepticism?

c. with great interest?

d. as a joke?

B. Find the second part of the sentences on the tape.

1. It's a common belief these days that_.

2. Young men often complain that_.

3. They may have_.

4. Most of us find it impossible to be direct_.

5. It's because you complain more often_.

6. Those are quite_.

7. So you're trying to say that_.

8. That's a tough question, but_.

9. First don't say that_.10. Tell him what_.

11. Second, don't deliberately make him jealous_.

12. So, say exactly what's on your mind and_.

13. Be direct but_.

C. Put the missing words.

1. Women have been affected more than men .   recent changes.

2. Girlfriends are not straight .   their boyfriends.

3. Girls never get .   the point.

4. They aren't direct .   their deepest feelings and fears.

5. Continual hinting, nagging and sulking won't get you ... the root of the problem.

6. Girls often complain ... boys' clothes, behaviour or haircuts.

7. These questions may mean you and he have very different outlook

. life.

8. We are scared .   the possible consequences.

9. Girls prefer playing a submissive role, putting up .  behaviour or attitudes they don't feel entirely happy with.

10. Teenage girls don't know how to deal ... their boyfriends.

D. Listen to the tape and find the words that precede the following.

The definitions in brackets should help you.

1._changes (that have taken place in the last years)

2._belief (popular)

3._hinting (done again and again)

4._feelings (the most serious)

5._haircut (considered to be of an acceptable standard)

6._suggestions (clear and simple)

7._consequences (likely)

8._role (behaving in a quiet and obedient way)

Exercise 3. A. Criticize your boyfriend or girlfriend for:

Activate

a. not being straight with you.

b. hedging around the subject and not getting to the point.

c. not being direct about his/her feelings.

d. nagging you all the time.

e. blaming you for everything.

f. never telling you what is bothering him/her.

g. expecting you to guess what's wrong.B. Make polite suggestions in the following situations:

Ask somebody      1. to cut his/her hair.

2. not to wear something you don't like.

3. to be honest with you.

4. to tell you what's on his mind.

5. to pay more attention to your feelings.

6. to stop being so critical of you.

7. not to be jealous.

8. to show more interest in what you're interested in.

C. Give your views on the following issues:

Would you agree that:     1. women have been affected more than men

by recent changes in the way people behave?

2. girlfriends aren't straight with their boyfriends?

3. girls expect their boyfriends to be mind-readers?

4. girls tend to make constant digs at their boyfriends?

5. girls prefer to play a submissive role?

6. girls deliberately make their boyfriends 1. women have been affected more than men jealous?

7. most teenage girls don't know how to deal with their boyfriends?

D. Give your views on the subject raised in the conversation. Use the openings gives below.

1. I must tell you that... 5. Don't you find it strange that ...

2. What I would like to say is ...   6. You wouldn't agree, would you, that ...

3. While we're on the subject I 7. There's no doubt ... would like to tell you that .    8. As far as I know .

4. I must say I find it extremely  9. It's probably true to say . difficult.. 10. I think it's certainly true to say that ...

Exercise 4. Choose the right word or phrase which best completes Word Use    each sentence.

1. He's very_about his private life. He's got no secrets.

a. trustworthy    b. direct    c. open     d. sincere

2. She is very_and told me quite simply that she doesn't like me.

a. genuine        b. open     c. blunt    d. sincere3. If you were_, you'd admit that it was your fault.

a. genuine b. true      c. frank       d. honest

4. He's got a very_manner, so don't be surprised if, the first

time you meet him, he asks you how much you earn.

a. sincere b. frank     c. direct      d. reliable

5. I'm writing to express my_gratitude for all your help.

a. truthful b. blunt      c. sincere    d. honest

6. It was a_mistake. I wasn't trying to cheat you.

a. genuine        b. sincere   c. truthful    d. frank

7. I'm going to be_with you, Mr Henderson. Your daughter is a thief.

a. sincere b. open      c. frank      d. genuine

8. I think he's_. I think he sells stolen goods.

a. insincere       b. false     c. crooked    d. deceitful

9. She's so_. One minute she's your best friend, and the next

minute she doesn't want to know you.

a. deceptive      b. two-faced c. deceitful   d. misleading

10. He was very_. He flattered me so that I wouldn't be able to

refuse him the favour he wanted.

a. crooked      b. two-faced c. cunning d. deceptive

11. The way he got me to do his work for him, without me realizing what was really happening, was very_.

a. devious       b. misleading c. crooked d. false

12. Don't expect him to turn up on time. He's very_.

a. untrustworthy b. unreliable c. deceitful d. cunning

13. It's_of you to say that. You know it isn't true.

a. dishonest    b. devious c. untrustworthy d. false

14. I was_by his honest appearance. Only later did I discover

that he was a liar.

a. misled b. deviated c. done       d. cheated

15. Before you send them any money, make sure the company really exists. The whole thing could be a_.

a. deceit b. fool       c. cheat       d. con

16. You can't_me! I know that story isn't true.

a. lie b. fool       c. do d. cheat

17. I realize now that you've been_me. You haven't been

going out with your friends, you've been seeing another man. a. lying b. doing    c. deceiving d. conning

Exercise 5. Say, if the statements are true or false, in your opinion. Reading

* You never cheated at school.

* About 20% of children cheat at school.* More boys cheat than girls.

* It is wrong to report on a cheat.

Now, read the text and correct the true and false answers where necessary. Argue the last point if you think differently.

Have you ever copied someone else's answers in an exam or passed off someone else's term paper as your own original work? Sadly enough, if your reply is 'no', you are in a minority. Surveys have shown that about two thirds of children admitted cheating in school. Cheating is done more by males than females, and intelligence is unrelated (though those with below average grades cheat more than those with above average grades).

When you allow others to cheat without reporting their behaviour, your response is no different than the situation in which you stand idly by as a thief get away with his or her crime. You may one day find yourself driving across a bridge designed by an individual who cheated on his engineering school exams, or you have a cavity filled by a dentist who was only able to pass dental school by copying the answers of a friend.

Exercise 6.   Give a literary translation to the text below. Translation

Spencer sighed and said to his dog, 'Okay, I'll be straight this time. Right to the heart of it, huh? No more dancing around the edges.'

Long ago he had sworn never to lie to himself. He kept that oath only somewhat more faithfully than the average drunkard kept his New Year's Eve Resolution never to allow demon rum to touch his lips again. In fact, he probably indulged in less self-delusion and self-deception than most people did, but he could not claim, with a straight face, that he invariably told himself the truth. Or even that he invariably wanted to hear it. What it came down to was that he tried always to be truthful with himself but he often accepted a half-truth and a wink instead of the real thing - and could live comfortably with whatever omission the wink implied.

But he never lied to the dog.

Exercise 7.   Can you always tell if someone is lying? Speaking     Is lying actually bad?

Who do we lie most often to?

What is it that we lie about?

Read the text and answer these questions.

Wilst we are all very good at telling lies we are not so good at spotting them. Unless someone is a professional /compulsive liar there are a number of things that people tend to do when they lie: they tend toavoid eye-contact; their voice has a higher pitch than usual; what they say sounds rehearsed - probably using words that are supposed to be convincing but generally sound unnatural and distant; they tend to touch their nose or ears, scratch parts of their body, and shift in their seat. Interestingly, we tend to lie more to attractive people rather than unattractive people. Most lies are not intended to be deceptive, generally we lie unconsciously, either to be tactful or to protect / promote ourselves, by editing out details. Lying is not always a bad thing; married couples who religiously tell each other everything are more likely to get divorced than those who have a few secrets. In any case, imagine what life would be like if always told the truth!

Exercise 8. A. How serious the following lies seem to you? Discussion     The least serious mark '1', the most serious - '5'.

Answer individually and then discuss in pairs.

1   2  3   4 5

1. Using public transport without buying a ticket._____

2. Getting someone else to do your homework for you._____

3. Making an event sound much better or worse

than it really was. _____

4. Borrowing things without the owner's permission._____

5. Promising to visit/phone/write to someone

when you have no intention of doing so. _____

6. Not telling the waiter/waitress that they've

undercharged you for your meal. _____

7. Telling children that Father Christmas exists. _____

8. Copying books, CDs, videos and computer software._____

9. Cheating on your partner. _____

10. Reading other people's diaries and letters

without their permission. _____

B. Discuss in which of the following situations it would be convenient to tell a white lie. What might the lie be?

1. Your mother knits you a revolting jumper for your birthday.

2. A new friend invites you for dinner. You're doing nothing but you don't want to go.

3. You are a doctor. Your patient has six months to live.

4. Your child is 13. To get reduced rail fares she should be under 13.

5. Your partner has been hours preparing to go out for dinner. He/she looks terrible.Exercise 9. Choose any of the topics below for your writing. Writing

1. Given the opportunity most people would steal if there was no way of being caught.

2. If you want to have happy relationships, never say the whole truth.

3. Promises are made to be broken.